Stress Management Counselling
Stress can keep us on our toes and be a force for good in our lives. However
too much stress and feeling overwhelmed with what we are dealing with, can
damage our health and our enjoyment of life. Counselling for stress can help you
to recognise the root causes and help you to learn stress management techniques.
What is stress?
Stress is a physical reaction caused by hormones in our bodies. Often when we
experience a demand or requirement on ourselves, our brains produce adrenaline
and cortisol and this helps to manage the pressure we are facing at that time.
It is a physical response that causes us to go into a ‘fight or flight’ mode and
this boost of physical adrenaline gives us a surge of energy and we focus on the
task at hand.
As a result, it is important to realise that stress is not wholly a bad thing.
This physical stress reaction has the effect of making us focused, alert, able
to cope and motivated.
However, stress can become a negative force when the physical response does
not go away, and we remain with the feeling of stress continuously, even when
the situation does not warrant it.
How must stress is too much?
It can be hard to know when the stress levels in your life have tipped over
into ‘too much stress’. It is often the case that it creeps up on you, in part
because you have become used to the level of stress in your life and do not
realise the impact it is having on you.
It is also very much the case that we are all different. As a result, what can
be too much stress for one person, will be a very manageable amount for another
and vice versa. This will be down to a multitude of factors including the level
of an individual’s connection with, and ability to deal with, their emotions,
their support network and their understanding of stress and how to cope with it.
All these and other factors will affect how an individual reacts to stress.
Am I stressed? Am I overwhelmed?
Here are some common signs and symptoms of that indicate that you have reached
your stress saturation point:
Cognitive Symptoms of stress:
- Unable to concentrate
- Memory problems
- Racing / anxious / worrying thoughts
- Only seeing the negative in most things
Physical Symptoms of stress:
- Needing the toilet frequently / diarrhea
- Aches and pains
- Feeling nauseous / cramps and pain in your stomach
- Chest pain /palpitations
- Dizziness
- Breathlessness
- Headaches
Emotional Symptoms of stress:
- Moodiness / irritability
- Feeling depressed or unhappy
- Feeling angry / having angry outbursts
- Feeling overwhelmed
- Feeling isolated and alone
These symptoms will, understandably, have an impact on your behavior and you
may:
- Experience insomnia
- Notice the impact of your symptoms on your friends and family
- Withdraw from others
- Eat too much, too little or rely on highly caffeinated and sugary food and
drink to cope with tiredness
- Use alcohol / drugs / cigarettes as an attempt to relax
Stress and the Impact on Physical Health
When we are in a state of stress either frequently or constantly, it will
begin to have an impact on our physical wellbeing. The stress reaction is
normal, but only when it comes and goes and helps us to cope, in the short term,
with a demanding situation.
However, when we cross over from being ‘occasionally’ in a ‘stress reaction
state’, to this being most or all of the time, it takes its toll on the body.
Some of the impacts on physical health are:
- Heart Disease
- Skin Conditions such as eczema
- Digestive problems
- Sleep Problems
- Weight Issues
- Thinking and memory problems
- Reproductive issues
What are the causes of stress?
The things that cause stress are known as ‘stressors’. These are situations or
events that put demands on you and can be positive as well as negative. For
example, . . . getting married, promotion at work or buying a property can all
feel very positive things but they can also be ‘stressors’. Negative examples
are financial worries, relationship difficulties or health concerns.
These are known as ‘external stressors’.
There are also ‘internal stressors’, which are things you worry and become
anxious about in your mind, rather than because of an external situation. For
example imagined scenarios or negative approaches to things.
Finally, there are levels of things in life that some find stressful and
others will not.
It might be that, on a regular basis, you manage high levels of stress that
you enjoy and thrive on. However something occurs that may seemingly be of no
consequence to someone else, but feels intensely stressful to you despite your
ability to manage stress normally. In the same way, another individual can find
many things stressful that you find inconsequential, or that you actively enjoy.
There are a variety of external and internal factors that cause stress and
each person’s unique and individual makeup will be a key component to what
causes and does not cause them stress.
How does working with a counsellor for stress help?
Counselling can be a way to gain perspective on your stress. Within a few
sessions it is likely that you will begin to understand what areas in your life
are causing you overwhelm and the ways in which you can being to change and
manage the stressful areas of your life.
Counselling for stress means you are dealing with the problem, beginning to
manage it and understand it rather than simply feeling overwhelmed, anxious or
worried about what is occurring without doing anything about it.
Counselling is also a safe and confidential space where you can speak openly
and freely about what it is that is causing stress in your life and how you feel
about those people, experiences or situations at present.